As expressed in one of our articles here, Trump has signed executive orders that have targeted gender-affirming care, banned trans-women from participating in certain sports, and reversed DEI initiatives that expanded LGBTQ+ protections against discrimination.
For our friends in Republican-dominated states, a move to friendlier and bluer pastures can be a topic of consideration. However, relocating is always a complex decision, particularly in our current job market.
Here is what families should consider when contemplating the move:
1. Existing state laws
Research the current laws and policies in your state. There are resources here to begin your search. Pay attention to access to gender-affirming healthcare, and policies regarding trans-children in schools.
Worthy of note, states such as California, Massachusetts, and Minnesota have initiated “sanctuary” protections that shield families from legal consequences if they seek gender-affirming care. As of the time of this writing, 26 states have restricted gender-affirming care for minors.
When considering a move, make sure you’re up to date not only on existing laws in the state of consideration, but the current legal climate. You need to anticipate the political future of the area. Here is a tracker for anti-trans legislation in different states: https://translegislation.com/
2. Employment plans and opportunities
Unless your employer allows remote work, a relocation may mean finding a new job. Some LGBTQ-friendly employers will offer relocation assistance for employees who need to move for safety or medical reasons, so check your employee handbook and HR policies.
In the event you need to hunt for a new job, you’ll need to research the industry and job markets in other states and cities. Take a look also at the anticipated cost of living (including state taxes, housing and rent, food, and fuel). Remember, it’s possible to take a job where your income is increased, but end up poorer if the cost of everything is 30% more expensive. (Important: Cost of living within states can vary wildly – research the city, not just the state.)
Even if you are a 100% remote teleworker, check with your employer to confirm that you may continue employment in other states. Remember that your benefits and taxes may be affected by a move.
3. Educational and school districts
School districts vary widely not only among, but also within states. Take a hard look at school districts in destination cities and consider not just the quality of education, but also what protections your child can expect. When possible, research any right-wing activity in a potential school district. Check out how active Moms for Liberty are in the area. Look at this map of Forced Outing of Transgender Youth in schools as a reference.
Questions to ask:
- Does the school allow gender changes in student records?
- Are there specific policies on anti-trans bullying?
- Does staff receive sensitivity training on trans issues?
- Are staff required to “out” trans children?
4. Political climate and community support
Investigate local attitudes toward trans and LGBT communities. Again, remember our warning: Different cities within the same states may vary wildly. For example, Kansas City is a declared trans-sanctuary city, however its state of Missouri has a negative score for its gender-identity protections.
Here is a link to research anti-trans legislation initiatives.
5. Child’s age and specific interests and needs
Another factor to consider is the age of your child, and whether there are any circumstances that would weigh in favor of remaining in a red state, despite the current political climate. Relevant questions to ask:
- How many more years does your child have until they graduate?
- Would your child suffer distress from the loss of local family, friends, or romantic partners?
- Does your child have any specific local activities, such as extracurriculars, that would outweigh the benefits of moving?
This is no easy call for any family, and let’s be real—no one should have to make it in the first place. But whether you choose to stay and fight or relocate for your child’s safety, never forget this: your love and support are the most powerful weapons in their corner. Research from the Movement Advancement Project is crystal clear—trans kids with supportive parents can thrive. They have higher self-esteem, better mental health, and lower rates of depression and suicide attempts. That’s not just opinion; that’s fact.
And here’s another truth: you are NOT alone in this fight. Even in today’s turbulent political climate, families like yours, allies, and LGBTQ+ organizations are standing up, pushing back, and demanding a future where trans kids don’t just survive—they thrive.
